Happy New Year!

The Captain poposed to me October 1.

December 1 he was asking for time to "think" and screwed me out of Christmas.

January 1 he finally officially breaks up with me.

January 2 he is back on Match.com with a brand new profile.

Yeah. You read that right.

So if you run across FromNowOn9 on Match.com, AVOID HIM.

Rings & Things

So, the Captain proposed to me on his birthday, October the 1st, and I said yes. When I asked why he chose his birthday, he said that it would be the best birthday present he could ever hope for.

No details, no date set yet, but May 1st is being tossed around.

Hard to believe it's been ten months (funny how I didn't realize that but my ex-husband knew it down to the day) and I've agreed to marry a guy I still only see 2 or 3 times a week.

Hard to believe that he lived less than 5 miles from me for over a year and I had to meet him on the Interweb.

The hardest part is going to be letting him be the man. That's going to be a big adjustment, I've gotten very used to taking care of everything and giving up total control will be very hard. I don't have a lot of practice making joint decisions and letting someone else help.

Onwards and upwards...

MeMeMe

I know I have been MIA, but I have loads to catch up on !!!! At work now, but will be posting soon.
heading to a singles event tonight with 2 of the chicks on here. Dear lord with 80 people attending just a few normal cute boys please......
So one of my POF freaks resurfaced on my yahoo. he is STILL a freak....
Am I interested in watching him wack off................ Well NO, that seems to serve no purpose for me or my needs, have a nice day !!!

How nature says "Do not touch"

Apparently I rock a blue cardigan, because I got hit on in Starbucks this morning. It was way more crowded than usual, so I had to wait in line, and I noticed this guy notice me. If I was single, I may have been interested, but I didn't put out any signals. So I'm paying and stuffing my change back in my wallet and he suddenly comes around the coffee display holding out his hands. I just sort of look at him and he says "I was sort of hoping you'd drop some and I could catch it." I just smiled and said that I didn't have that much to drop. he asked what I was getting and I told him my usual cinnamon dolce latte and he says "Oh, fancy!" I looked at the girl behind the counter and she rolled her eyes. I'm politely smiling and not making eye contact and he just isn't getting it. He asks if I always get that and I said yes, even with all the calories. He laughed and did whatever VP types do to their coffee while they wait to pounce.

He wasn't bad looking, don't get me wrong, but he looked like one of those generic corporate VP types with a perfectly starched blue shirt with a very subdued windowpane plaid, khaki slacks, and the perfectly coiffed hair. Tanned, stout, probably plays a lot of golf. Divorced because the kids went off to college, or because he liked the strippers a little too much. Plus, he's got a copy of the Washington Post on his table. Not someone I'd have a lot in common with, probably.

So after I got my coffee I'm walking to the door, he winds up beside me and holds the door open for me, and I said thank you, and went to walk away, and by this point I'm thinking dude, you're not getting anywhere with this, but you get an A for effort. He asks if I always come to this Starbucks, and I just turned around and said, "I'm on a first name basis with my shrink and I belong to the National Rifle Association. Have a great day!"

He let me go willingly. Remember that the next time you meet Mr Creepy.

dating

I am very clear in my profile what I am looking for as NOT looking for. I want long term, kids, faithful... dud. i want someone my age, don't like beards, not into interacial dating.... Sooooooooooo do any of you guys think the guy below actually READ my profile before he wrote me, or wanna bet he looed at the pics...
also, for those of you know who know what i do for a living I have NO fingernails hahahaha


Hello,

I live in North Texas, but I start and end all of my trips in Atlanta, Georgia.

Being that I am an Airline Pilot I travel a lot.

I have a college degree and work in a very exciting/professional career field.

I am 37 years old.

I am not single and have no intentions of changing that aspect in my life. If this is a problem you can stop reading and I thank you for your time.

No Home Wreckers, No Money Seekers, OR Sugar Daddy seekers!! I am not your guy.

I am looking for someone that I can carry on a good conversation with and someone who has a good sense of humor. I am very laid back and easy going.

I have no preset notions and want to start out by talking as friends and go from there.

I joined POF in August of 2008. Why am I on here if I am Not Single/ Not Looking? If we happen to have a good conversation we can talk about my reason at a later time.

I am not looking to jump in the sack with just anyone. In my opinion there needs to be more there in the chemistry department if you really want to enjoy that aspect between two people anyway, should we even decide to go there.

I am drug and disease free and I would prefer the same of you.

I am a very clean person and take showers at least twice if not three times a day. I shave my head by choice, but should I decide to grow hair it is brown. I am height and weight proportionate.

My schedule varies every month and I usually know it a month in advance.

I have all my teeth and I have very good hygiene. I ask for you to have the same. Good hygiene is very important to me.

I am a hands person and I love elegant hands on a lady. I like someone who takes care of herself and gets her nails done, but no bear claws. Someone that has natural length nails that are done right. Think like in the palmolive commercial. I like hands that are feminine and are well taken care of.

Discreetness is a must and again I am not looking to ruin any situation your currently involved in or vice versa.

We can talk and hopefully become friends. If we get a chance possibly we can Hang out and just see what happens.

Please get in touch with me if you are interested and we can start talking. I have more pictures that I can share if we start communicating more.

Thank you.

First Date
We would be comfortable before meeting and then possibly we can meet for drinks. The rest of the date will be up to us. No Pressure and as stated above I am very laid back and easy going.

My luck...

Super cute guy I was supposed to meet out for coffee tomorrow night had to postpone...
Was spraying the Wasps nest in his shutters and "one flew out at my face" he didn't say it, but I think he got stung and doesn't want to meet all swelled up, which I can't blame ....
But he also fell off the ladder. No broken bones boy bruised up. Hopefully we reschedule next week!!

And loser honorable mention !! Was supposed to meet a guy out for Thai food this past Friday.......... he has asked me earlier in the week if " iwanted to come over and make out on the sofa chuckle chuckle" I declines having not even spoken to much less met this man. So when I sent an email to confirm on Thurs. I had been blocked.... Not even mad or bothered, Glad none of my time waas wasted and got thai food on my own.

Now I like to make out as much as the next girl, but you hadn't even bothered to call me yet !!! LOSER

I just don't understand !!!

ok, I just don't understand it, and if any of you can give me an explanation I will gladly listen.
First let it be know, I do not "sleep around" as Kelly Clarkson says ' I do not hook up" At 41 years old, I can count on both hands and a few toes how many men i have slept with. So the following events are not my "style' by any means.

I met A online, attraction at first sight !!! Our first meeting was me going over to his house and hanging with him and his daughter, who is awesome. Yes I know.... meeting the child the first time you met him?? WTH. But she is with him 90% of the time so in this situation it was if you are dating him, you are dating them.
Now all of you know I want to get married and have kids, so this actually does not bother me in the least....... We had a great day, I went home.
2nd date................ long story short, I spend the night............. iknow, prob not smart. But there was total chemistry. I am 41 he is 48, we are grown ups.
Tells me as i am leaving he totally wants to see me next weekend.
3rd Date. Once again great time. Next morning he is making me coffee and waffles and talking about getting my goddaughters and his daughter together for a playdate soon. All going merrily along right !!!!!

Monday comes and by IM----- I am told "we have to talk, it is not you, its me. I can't do this. I don't see you as long term........" WTF just happened?????? Someone PLEASE tell me!!!!!!!!
if I was just a HOOKUP, I doubt he would have told me the magnatude of personal information about himself, and was willing to leave me alone in his house while he went to the store.
Anyone help with this??????

7 months

I've been dating the Captain for 7 months and I have to say, I'm no closer to wanting to live with anyone or get married than I was before we started dating. As much as I love him and love being with him, I am still really attached to my own autonomy.

Which makes good sense considering he's "comittment-phobic" anyway. He talks the talk but doesn't walk the walk. I'm not planning on going anywhere since we're still having a good time, but never, ever let anyone tell you that men aren't as moody as women are.

hmmmmmm and they resurface again.....

my chiropractor hookup has seemed to resurfaced..............................

here we go again

well cupcake didn't work out as planned so let the blogging begin again.....
Sorry I have been MIA, but the was a pretty hard hit when it didn't work out !!!
ME

Cupcakes

Odd as it may sound, I am offically "smitten" by someone I have not even met yet !!! And funny enough, per texting this morning, he seems to feel the same.
Guess 9 hours on the phone in 48 hours tells ya something.....
For the moment the nickname is Cupcake or if "someone" else on this board who is giddy and quite proud of her self decided to post, "Mr Cake"

Everyone is now being instructed to keep your fingers crossed damnit !!!

Some people collect stamps...

So as of last night, I am now up to FOUR different men (all met online of course) who have sent me completely unsolicited pictures of their..um..equipment.

Shall I start a scrapbook? Set a goal for the year?

The latest entry is disturbing to say the least - cute guy (if the pictures are actually him), but of a size I cannot even believe! I would run for my life if I encountered it in real life - seriously, I'm talking the size of a small child's arm! Now of course I'm going to have to interview him further about this (he called me last night but sent the picture after we hung up)...I'll report back with the stats! Ha ha

WTF indeed!!!

So..here's what just went down with POF contestant #1 - I am shaking -

Jeff, 38 - cute and seemed somewhat normal (clearly I was wrong!). Contacted me several times, we have talked on the phone at length the last two nights and were planning to possibly meet this weekend.

I got back to my hotel from dinner and was checking email, POF, etc. - he saw that I was on here and wrote the following -

"Best of luck hope u find what u are looking for. I think maybe you are just to busy and I find it hard to trust someone who lives in another state makes it easyer to cheat. I dont think I could date someone and only see then 1 day a week."

So I wrote him back, said I was sorry he felt that way having never even met me, that I am actually pretty honest and have integrity, etc.

He then wrote back, basically called me a whore - said if I were truly interested I would have called him instead of logging onto POF, etc. When I tried to write back he had blocked me!
His headline now reads "No whores be honest!!!", which is apparently a tribute to me.

WMJ - he goes into the same hall of fame as the Hungarian!!! I didn't realize I was supposed to change my entire life and cut off all contact with other men based on two phone conversations.

The good news? I clearly dodged a major bullet here...can we say CRAZY????

I propose a vote:

Everyone who thinks WMJ should change the name of this blog from Dating...UGH to Dating...WTF?, chime in!!

Casting a wider net...

At the suggestion of WMJ, I recently decided to give P.O.F. a try. So far a big response, which is great, but naturally a bit more weeding is necessary.

In no particular order, here are my thoughts (although these can really apply to any of the sites) -

• If you have to mention that you LOVE sports / are super athletic / are super fit over and over in your profile, WHY on earth would you want to date me, the queen of un-athleticism?
• On a similar note, being "fit" is all well and good, but if you look like you could bench press me, spend more than an hour a day in the gym, or have pictures on your profile displaying your "guns" to their best angle, two words - no thanks
• If you approached me on Yahoo or Match and I didn't respond, guess what? I have a memory, and chances are pretty good I'm not going to suddenly like you on P.O.F.!
• If you know me / have dated me in the past and see my profile on P.O.F., that does not necessarily obligate you to email me and point out the obvious ("hey, you're online dating!") - sometimes it's better to leave that whole "small world" thing alone!

All in all, a few worthy contenders - more on that soon......

A final note - some of you may have doubted my self-esteem preserving strategy of NOT proactively contacting any men on these sites (I only field incoming offers) - well, I broke my own rule the other day on match. I sent what I thought were cute, witty emails to two guys with very funny profiles. And of course they both looked at my profile and passed. Sigh. Probably out there looking for Asian / Latin / Brazilian Barbie of some variety...so I'm back to Plan A.

The Impromptu Guide for Filtering Online Dating Candidates

Sure, it's picky, sure you might skip a few guys over because of it, but it's what found me Doodlepants.

1) If you email me, you'd better reference something in my profile and know something about it or know what my username meant.

2) No extensive travel for "work".

3) If you were successful in referring to my profile info and I email you back, your reply doesn't use the word "sexy" or even mention going out yet.

4) In fact, you don't even mention going out or give me your private email or phone number until your third email.

5) Don't offer to send me "private" pictures.

6) You meaning the dating woman = Flat out mention something that is one of the most important things in your life - the thing that matters most to you, barring everything else, like if you were on a deserted island you'd be fine if you had X or could do Y.  If he isn't as positive as you are about it, even remotely, no-go.

(Yes, that's very personal, but it gets right to the heart of the matter, doesn't it?  Like, I could live [if pressed] without knitting, but I couldn't live without books.  Granted, it's not like my family doesn't matter, but I also know myself enough to know that I can live without people.  You're addressing fundamental beliefs and character here.  If he says he couldn't live without his Slayer albums or his Satanic bible, bye-bye.)

7) He answers the same  passion/important thing question.  If you aren't *totally* enthusiastic about it, no-go.

8) If he doesn't get along with his family, no-go.

9) If he doesn't mention his salary, no-go.

10) If he doesn't mention his religion, no-go.

11) If he doesn't mention his preference on kids, no-go.

12) Falls in the strict age range, period.  And that means, unfortunately, someone within 5 years of your age.  Kids are fun, but kids don't want to settle down and have kids unless they have mommy issues.

I know this seems ridiculous and dumb, but being this picky worked for me.  Yes, I may have passed over guys who were just shy or awkward, but I don't want to deal with shy or awkward.  Been there, done that.  I don't know what freak stroke of luck sent me Doodlepants, but he met all those conditions and more.  No one else did in three months.

Square peg, meet round hole and screwed up teenaged dating

So I found it highly amusing that apparently I, the punk freak "untouchable" in high school, was in fact very much sought after but none of the guys would ask me out because they were afraid of me.  I scared them.  They were intimidated by me because I behaved the same as them, not like the other girls.  They didn't know how to approach me.  The guy who told me this, better known as The Chef, the one I actually did date and who is in touch with a lot of them, actually got applauded - applauded! - at the recent reunion for having both the prowess and the cojones to go out with me.  I've gotten messages from several who all said they regretted never asking me out.  WTF?  I mean really, W.T.F.?

How in the hell does that happen?  Why did no one tell me this?  Do you have any idea what this would have done for my self-esteem?  How much better I would have felt about myself, instead of being the girl that didn't have dates because she was just one of the guys?

I found all these people on Facebook, of course.  And it's funny - in the communication threads, these guys' wives and girlfriends have got their hackles up.  Do they not remember that I hung out with all these guys and I was friends with them, and not them?  And why wasn't I friends with the girls?  Because I was friends with the guys!  And oh, that's right, that's why all the girls called me a whore!  I'd almost forgotten that.  Funny how that works, especially knowing now that the guys were all afraid to ask me out.  

Good times.

hmmmm

I think I might be sporting a bit of a crush on an old classmate I have hung out with a couple of times............
I am going to just leave it at that for now.
WMJ

At a complete and utter loss....

I honestly don't think anyone could provide an adequate explanation for some of the atrocious behavior I have encountered as of late.....

Case Study #1 - Indian PhD Guy (Dazed and Confused)

First contacts me back in August on Match. We go out once, have a very good time, and make plans for a second date. Day of 2nd date I get a text from his friend saying he dislocated his shoulder and is in the hospital. A few weeks later, he resurfaces and sends me a very nice email saying that he's gotten back with his ex-girlfriend. I was fine with it, as I wasn't sure I was attracted to him in the first place, and he handled it well. Fast forward several months - I see him back on Match (looking at my profile) and we have a few fun episodes of text conversations (all PG, girls). He is flirty and asks me to come watch a movie at his house that night. I agree (deciding he is harmless) and then 30 minutes later he says he can't do it, has to pick up a stranded friend whose car broke down. A few months later, he's back - we text for 3 hours the Sunday of the snow, and he asks me out for dinner the following Friday (specific plans - restaurant, time, etc. all decided). Texts me on Tuesday to say hi, I write back 2 hours later, and nothing. And nothing. And nothing. I finally text him on Thursday to say are we still on for dinner. Nothing. And nothing since. Except....yep, you guessed it - he's back on Match and looking at my profile.

Case Study #2 - Nice Guy Jim (and what a guy he is)

Last Saturday I get an Match email (on my Blackberry) from Nice Guy Jim as follows:

Michelle - if you are ever in the mood to hook up, please call me at 404-xxx-xxxx. Jim.

Having no clue who this is, I check the picture when I get home (can't see it on the Blackberry) and it's this guy who emailed me almost a YEAR ago and then flaked out. We have never even talked on the phone.

To make it even better, this is how his profile now begins on Match -

I am a Christian man looking for a Christian woman that is marriage minded and wants to start a family fairly soon...

Gosh, do you think he wants to marry me? Or just come over to my house, screw me, and leave? I know which one I'm putting my money on....

There are more stories to tell, but I just don't have the energy to type them now....more soon.

10 years and counting.....

Ever have those guys you never get over? Those relationships that never seem to die? That one true love that you feel like makes you both into the poster children for "star-crossed lovers"?

Mine is going on 10 years now and just reemerged yesterday.

I know it will never go anywhere, but damn, if I'm not addicted to it. :-(