Square peg, meet round hole and screwed up teenaged dating

So I found it highly amusing that apparently I, the punk freak "untouchable" in high school, was in fact very much sought after but none of the guys would ask me out because they were afraid of me.  I scared them.  They were intimidated by me because I behaved the same as them, not like the other girls.  They didn't know how to approach me.  The guy who told me this, better known as The Chef, the one I actually did date and who is in touch with a lot of them, actually got applauded - applauded! - at the recent reunion for having both the prowess and the cojones to go out with me.  I've gotten messages from several who all said they regretted never asking me out.  WTF?  I mean really, W.T.F.?

How in the hell does that happen?  Why did no one tell me this?  Do you have any idea what this would have done for my self-esteem?  How much better I would have felt about myself, instead of being the girl that didn't have dates because she was just one of the guys?

I found all these people on Facebook, of course.  And it's funny - in the communication threads, these guys' wives and girlfriends have got their hackles up.  Do they not remember that I hung out with all these guys and I was friends with them, and not them?  And why wasn't I friends with the girls?  Because I was friends with the guys!  And oh, that's right, that's why all the girls called me a whore!  I'd almost forgotten that.  Funny how that works, especially knowing now that the guys were all afraid to ask me out.  

Good times.