Women and their mothers

My Mother is still espousing the idea that I should not let him pay for dinner because that will "obligate" me to "pay him back" for spending his money.

I came right out and asked her why withholding sex seems to be such a big deal to her? Him paying for dinner doesn't obligate me to anything, if I'm going to have sex with him it's because I want to, not because I feel like I owe him anything. I said as far as I'm concerned, he could buy me Piedmont Park and that still wouldn't obligate me to anything because it isn't like anyone made him do it.

Back in her day, I suppose sex was still a commodity for women without any independence. however, there is really no point in me treating sex as a commodity because to me, I want sex when I want it. It's not some prize to be awarded to a guy for behaving correctly, that's just manipulative. You don't buy a car without test driving it, and plus, sex is fun and I don't consider it a gift or a prize that you bestow on someone. That's so old-fashioned that it makes me cringe.

I also just wrote to her that the old cliche used to be that men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free. The way I see it, why should I buy the pig when I can get the sausage for free?