I just found out last night that (my boyfriendish person that I shall now always refer to as Brown Hipster because he is a hipster UPS driver) BH's 11 year old daughter is moving back to the state. NEXT MONTH. I'm freaking out because I could totally handle hanging out as the girlfriend of "Daddy" for a week every 6 months or a few weekends here and there, but now she is going to seriously be in his life.
Don't get me wrong. It is great. He is very, very excited to have her back closer to him and she is a very well-behaved child. However, as some of you know, I'm not really the "child type". I've never been around children, don't particularly like being around them and never planned on being around them. Now I'm instantly in this weird land of "you-aren't-my-mommy-but-you-are-in-my-life" person. I'm especially freaked because the current plan is for me to move in with BH starting in May.
All this being said, I haven't met the child yet. I have never even spoken to her. I don't know how she will treat me and I really don't know how I will treat her. She's been in this situation before (BH just came out of a 5 year relationship), but I never have.
I just need some advice. Oh, did I mention that I'M FREAKING OUT! :-)
2 comments:
Oh no! Not sure how your life was growing up and if your parents are still together kind of thing...hmmm, guess I don't know you beyond dinner. I digress.
My parents divorced when I was going on 10. It was strange when my parents dated people. It wasn't as strange when my dad did because I didn't live there except for the occasional weekend or week or two during summer break. I will be honest...my dad only dated one woman that I know of and he married her. I DID NOT like her at first. Girls are supposed to be "daddy's little girl" and she was invading my space.
That being said...we all get along great now. Haha...I know that was 28 years ago or so. Actually we started getting along a long time ago...I didn't want my dad to be lonely. My mom had us and her new love and my dad had no one. I was just happy for him to be happy.
It's okay for the "girlfriend" of the date to be friends with the dad and not be the disciplinarian. You get to be the "cool" one. You'll do fine! Just no tattoos or piercings without the parent's permission!
As long as she is still living with her mom most of the time, you should be fine.
You might want to talk to our friend that hosted the Xmas brunch, she was in a very similar situation
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