I had an unusual and pleasant exchange this week with a match.com contender -
He contacted me (via "wink" then very nice email) expressing his interest.
I reviewed his profile and realized there is no physical attraction on my part (not even a shadow of a doubt - so why waste his time?).
I emailed him back to thank him for his email, and wrote that I'm currently seeing several people and taking a break from new relationships, but wished him a happy holiday season and best of luck.
He emailed me back to thank me for replying and wish me well.
WHY is that so hard? Did I tell a white lie? Yes, but what is the point of hurting someone's feelings when he took the risk? Why make this nice guy feel bad about himself just because he's not my cup of tea?
Some may disagree with me, but I don't think this is the time for complete and brutal honesty.
But most importantly, we were both polite, gracious, considerate of each other's feelings, and he didn't call me a bitch (or worse!) for turning him down!
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Good for you Shivering in Chicago. I always reply with at least a pleasant No thank you. I think it's the least I can do when some guy steps off the ledge.
I think it would be equally as nice if the guys would say no thanks to a wink or e-mail. Why just let it go with no response? If you have time to be on match do you not have time to say "thanks, but no thanks"?
A little common courtesy never hurt anyone.
Stay warm!
I think you're handling it extremely well and extremely politely. I agree that common courtesy is the best bet.
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