I haven't had much to blog about lately, but yesterday I experienced a whole new surge of disgust toward the online dating scene. Let me walk you through it...
Yesterday morning I got a very nice email from a man we'll call the trainer (because he is one! very creative, I know). He was cute, 39, never married, no kids, had a very nice profile all about him and his big family, how he is open / honest / not into games, not looking for Barbie (despite being a personal trainer) - basically everything you'd want to hear from a potential suitor. His email was totally normal and nice, said I looked very attractive in my pics, he'd love to chat sometime, etc. Even gave his number and full name in the email.
I was kind of excited about it (as I told WMJ at lunch), thinking "Wow, I held out long enough to actually meet a normal, acceptable person on here!" I wrote him back last night, careful to make a very good first impression, and gave him my cell number (which about a 1000 people at work have, so not a big deal to give out).
Literally a minute later, he texts me - says hi and that he sent me some pics (I'm thinking ??? there are already pics of him on his profile). He also wrote "I have to say I am fiesty - hope you're ok with that - I am not shy". Hmmm.....
This is the point at which I thought - will he be the THIRD man to send me unsolicited naked photos of himself? Girls, for those of you who aren't up on the lingo, "fiesty" and "not shy" apparently = horny and ready to exchange naked photos with strangers. He actually expected me, based on this brief interaction, to take "s*xy" pictures of myself and send them to him last night.
The conversation continued:
Trainer - "You know what I mean by fiesty, right? I am extremely s*xual and I like to play"
Me - "Is that all you're looking for?" (clearly it is!)
Trainer - "Not all but it's extremely important to me"
Me - "I agree that s*x is very important, but I am looking for someone who wants to get to know me / date as well"
Trainer - "Oh. I was hoping for a few s*xy pics. Well, that sucks. I had a few to send you - I guess I am just fiesty tonight. Sorry"
Can you hear my sigh all the way in Atlanta?
As I am typing this, he just sent me a text saying hi and he hopes I'm having a good day.
It's not as though I'm against having a few on the back burner for just such purposes (in fact, I'm in favor of it!), but it is disappointing when it's not immediately clear that's all they are looking for.
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I know they say that the distance of the keyboard reduces inhibition but seriously, now, what are these stupid men thinking?
As I told you before you are worth so much more than that
I have gotten my fair share of penises texted to me as well, and the request for photos of me. I just want more than that dammit! Why is that so much to ask?
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